For many folks who have spent a whole lot of time by themselves in lockdown since March 2020, the notion of in-person connection is a super welcome one—especially when it comes to the partnered intimacy department. And according to some recent research, a number of folks are looking to intimately connect in more ways than one. Hint: Cuddling is welcome.
According to a recent small survey of 571 participants of all genders in the United States from feminist sex shop Early To Bed, half of all respondents said they’d much rather cuddle than have sex. Of course, that also means the other half of the respondents would ostensibly rather have sex than cuddle. The good news here is that it’s possible to be intimate in a best-of-both-worlds type of way by trying the best sex positions for people who love cuddling. This way, everyone involved in the partnered sex gets to be satisfied. Below, find five of the best penetrative partnered sex positions for people who love cuddling, according to sex experts.
5 of the best sex positions for people who love cuddling
This position is exactly what it sounds like: sexual spooning. “The person who’s being penetrated is going to be the little spoon, and the person doing the penetration will be the big spoon,” says sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, sex expert for sexual-wellness brand and retailer Lovers. This is a solid choice for maintaining close contact with limited hip movement. “The big spoon can use their arms to wrap around their lover and penetrate gently for more romantic love-making,” she adds.
In this tantric sex position, also known as yab yum, your legs will be wrapped around each other in a front-facing sitting position. “The lotus is a great position because you can be really close,” says Stewart. “[It] allows you to line your torsos up and get your arms around each other, kiss, and embrace for a close and cuddly experience.”
She recommends using auditory feedback, like moans and heavy breathing in their ear, to heighten arousal. And according to Neal, holding each other closely and maintaining presence with one another is helpful for enhancing connection.
Looking to hug and kiss mid-penetration? Say hello to an old favorite: missionary position. You may already know how to get into this classic sex position, but if not, here’s Neal’s simple how-to: “The receiver lies flat on their back while the giver penetrates from the top [and gets] very close to the receiver by leaning on their elbows.”
“To create a very intimate missionary position, maintain eye contact,” she adds. To take it up a notch, Stewart says the penetrating partner can use their weight to add some slightly stimulating pressure onto the receiver (only if doing so won’t hurt the person underneath, of course).
4. Side-by-side, front-facing
Like the missionary position, Stewart says side-by-side, front-facing sex can help you achieve hugging, kissing, and penetration. To get into it, she says you’d have to lie on a flat surface (like a bed), face each other, and have your bodies connect through penetration.”
5. Receiver on top
“With the person who’s doing the penetrating sitting down and the person who is being penetrated on top, you can also be in close proximity to one another,” says Stewart. This position can be achieved in any setting as long as you can sit and straddle your partner. Grab a chair, hop on the couch, or slide to the side or end of the bed, and get to business. Extra tip: If the person being penetrated is able to put their leg(s) up onto their lover’s shoulders during sex, Stewart says their lover can guide their hips to achieve more stimulation.
Ultimately, though, Stewart says any position where you can be close to your lover is a great sex position for people who love cuddling. Whichever position you choose, Neal says skin-to-skin contact is the name of the game here. “Go for maximum touch, pressure, and body connection to maximize pleasure,” she adds.
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